Let’s talk about sex

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You like your mates, and you love hanging out with them. Sometimes, though, some of them like to brag about all this exciting sex they are having (and maybe you aren’t), which can get pretty annoying. But hey, do they know whether you have had sex or not? Is it even any of their business? And do you know whether they have really experienced the things they brag about? Maybe it is just bravado. Perhaps they’re putting on a front to cover up the fact that they are actually a bit scared of relationships and sex? Whether your friends are having sex or just talking about it, don’t let them influence your own decisions. Deciding to have sex for the first time is a very personal choice.

No pressure

Sex can be amazing, but if you find yourself having sex without really wanting it, it can be not so great. A good relationship with a good sex life starts with being good friends. There’s no rush. It may take a long time before the two of you are ready for sex. Try not to care about the pressure you feel from your mates. It’s better to talk about sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend, because it’s your business and nobody else’s.

How do you feel?

Sex is not just a physical act, it’s something that involves your mind and emotions too. In fact, sex is very much about feelings. Take time to explore your thoughts and feelings about your sexuality with your partner.

Sex and the heart

It’s only natural that you might have nagging thoughts about severe heart failure while having sex, especially during orgasm. However, when it comes to sex there is really no difference between those who are born with heart disease and those who aren’t. According to some Swedish cardiologists, if you can walk 400 metres on flat ground at a brisk pace and then walk up two flights of stairs, you can have sex. Your heart won’t stop beating.


R U Thinking: About sex and relationships, www.ruthinking.co.uk, accessed on 05/08/2009.

Great Ormond Street Hospital: Teens first for help, www.childrenfirst.nhs.uk, accessed on 05/08/2009.

Author(s): Ulrika Hallin
Last updated: 2010-04-02

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04.03.2013 | Victor Varela, Colombia
Precisamente mi hija Martha Mónica con 17 años le he estado orientando al respecto, me gustaría saber sie en el caso de ella con CC univentricular y con estenosis pulmonar podría pensar más adelante en la posibilidad de tener hijos.



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